Hey man- This message is not to have something i want to say to my dad posted on this site (although i don't mind if this email is posted), but instead i thought if i wrote you it might be therapeautic in a way. I am 19 years old and a freshman in college, and my dad died at the age of 41. As i read your message i felt strange, because my dad died only three days before yours. It was sudden, he was in excellent health, and i feel like he was stolen from me in an instant. He was ice fishing with his friends, and they were done for the day and decided to depart. My dad was on a four wheeler, and he was going to take the ice home while his friends were to go to the mainland and drive. They watched him go around the point, and it was shortly thereafter that the ice gave out underneath him. The autopsy showed it was a combination of hypothermia and drowning. He probably struggled to get back on the ice, or even back to shore, for he was only 50 feet from the shoreline. But eventually the cold got the best of him and he was unable to stay above water. I was told at 2:30 in the morning by my mother. Unlike you, I didn't have the best relationship with my father. My parents divorced when i was 7, and my dad remarried and had another kid by the time i was 12. After that he had kind of moved away from his first family a bit, so my time spent with him was greatly reduced. I guess i wouldn't know what to say to my dad if he were in front of me right now. I never really did tell him i loved him, and he never told me either. So i guess i would tell him for once. Maybe i would ask him about heaven, and about death. I would ask him what happened with him and my mom, and i would ask him to tell me how it was living a life as hard as his. I might ask him for advice on how to be a man, and on how to take all the hardships in life and take them in stride. I would ask him if he loved me. Your friend in grief, Jordan

I Miss My Dad

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