I Miss My Dad
My father died on April,15th,2002 of liver failure. He was almost 49 and I was 13. The smallest things make me think of him. A song will play on the radio that will remind me of him. A commercial on television I see that I will remember we used to laugh at together all the time. I get very upset when I think of him because we had such a close relationship but then I think...because we had such a close relationship, I think of him all the time, and I feel better.I would like to tell my father thanks for everything he did for me in the unfair 13 years I had with him: Dad, I want to say thank you. Thank you for being there for me when I always needed you, and thanks for being there when I didn't. No matter where I was or what I was doing, I could always call you or come to you for anything. We always had the normal father-son squabbles but you and I had so much more than that. I look at other kids my age and wonder why I had to lose you and they still have their fathers. But I also think " I'll bet these kids do not have what my father and I had." You and I were best of friends all my life. If you were invited somewhere I was going or you would not go, no matter where you were going.I remember all the Christmas parties you got invited to. Even though Mom was not happy with me going, we always ended up going and having a great time.When the two of you divorced, it hurt me more than anything. But I loved the fact that I would be with you on Friday after school until Sunday after the football games.I would sit in school on Friday counting the hours...the minutes until I would be with my dad, doing what we always do. And it didn't have to be something fun. I remember the normal Friday night...You and I would go to CDB pizza with Pat and Sara and their kids and sometimes Pam would meet us their.Saturday was a play-it-by-ear day and even if we ended up watching "Bye-Bye Love" for the 5th week in a row, it did not matter, because I was with you, and that was fun enough. Then you moved over to Uncle JH's house. For a few months our Friday's and Saturdays were spent shooting a game of pool. Thank you for teaching me how to play pool like a pro!! I remember when Frankie and Johnnie's opened. You were their first, and seemingly only customer. If that place hadn't of closed down after a year I would still go there because that was a place that you and I went and had a great time together. But dad it wasn't only about going places and having fun. It was all about you and I and the great relationship we built. I could come and see you whenever I wanted just to talk to you. There were things I could tell you that I would never tell anyone else. I felt that type of bond with you. I would call you and (if you were in the mood to chat!!) talk for a long time about the silliest things. And some people might say...thats just stupid stuff...but you know what? Nothing you and I had was stupid. No one will ever understand the things we had or the connection you and I had. But that is what I love about it. Because I know that you and I had a rare bond that fathers have with their kids, and I know it because I witness things first hand. Fathers and sons fighting all the time, the mom mediating. But I think even though the divorce tore my heart out of my body, it helped. And I know it helped because there was no one fighting anymore. I had you and I had mom, and that was great.When I came home from school and found out the news I was in shock. I could not believe that it happened. But I had a feeling that weekend with you that you were not acting right, and something was going to happen.So in my state of shock, I knew and something told me that day that things EVENTUALLY would turn out okay.Dad, I can not believe you are gone. I only had 13 years with you and something tells me I was not old enough to really understand things about death and losing parents.It kills me to know that this weekend I will not be with you, but I will think about you 24/7, and remember the good times we had. I feel so lucky, Dad, that I spent all the time with you that I did, because if I didn't, I know I would feel guilty right now. I miss you Dad and I hope some day a long time from now that we will reunite and talk about all the fun we had together. But until that day comes I want to tell you I love you.I loved you while you were with me and I love you now and I always will. I miss you very much and you left a space in my heart that will never EVER be replaced by ANYONE, and that is my promise to you. Love Michael
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