I never thought I would write; I am not one to attend help groups or speak to people I don't know about something that is causing me pain or worry. I lost my Dad February 35, 2001. The only thing that keeps me going day to day is knowing that me & my family have happy warm loving memories . My parents were very much in love and married for 45 years! My mom is 62 & Dad was 72. He recently retired in September as a chef and they went to Italy to celebrate their 45th anniversary. He wasn't feeling well and had weakness in his arm and leg. After 2 operations, which we think were unnecessary, we found out the end of February that he had ALS, Lou Gherig's and he died the next day.I call my Mom every day. She has gone back to work, but is in pain every night. I recently got engaged. My fiance is the most patient, positive spirited loving warm man and he has become worried lately because of the way I am acting. He thinks I am detached. I guess I don't see myself that way, but I do feel different. Sometimes something comes across me, my mind, like a wave sweeping water across my face and all I can think of is Dad. I get lost in a thought of my Dad, even while in conversation with my friends. I think about going to a therapist, but then I think why? This is grieving. I have to deal with it, feel the pain, the happy memories and my fiance and I have to work on staying by each other thru happy & sad. It's important to let the one you love know that you are there for the,; do not neglect those that are present & alive in your life that you care about, but let them know you too need time .Time to go into that "daze" of memories of your Dad. NM in NYC I miss my dad, grieve, greive, bereave, loss, bereavment, breavement, greiving, grieving, death, i, miss, my, dad, sad, passed, passed away, away, died, i miss my dad grieve greive bereave loss bereavment breavement greiving grieving death sad passed away died

I Miss My Dad

I never thought I would write; I am not one to attend help groups or speak to people I don't know about something that is causing me pain or worry.

I lost my Dad February 35, 2001. The only thing that keeps me going day to day is knowing that me & my family have happy warm loving memories . My parents were very much in love and married for 45 years! My mom is 62 & Dad was 72. He recently retired in September as a chef and they went to Italy to celebrate their 45th anniversary. He wasn't feeling well and had weakness in his arm and leg. After 2 operations, which we think were unnecessary, we found out the end of February that he had ALS, Lou Gherig's and he died the next day.I call my Mom every day. She has gone back to work, but is in pain every night. I recently got engaged. My fiance is the most patient, positive spirited loving warm man and he has become worried lately because of the way I am acting. He thinks I am detached. I guess I don't see myself that way, but I do feel different. Sometimes something comes across me, my mind, like a wave sweeping water across my face and all I can think of is Dad. I get lost in a thought of my Dad, even while in conversation with my friends.

I think about going to a therapist, but then I think why? This is grieving. I have to deal with it, feel the pain, the happy memories and my fiance and I have to work on staying by each other thru happy & sad. It's important to let the one you love know that you are there for the,; do not neglect those that are present & alive in your life that you care about, but let them know you too need time .Time to go into that "daze" of memories of your Dad. NM in NYC

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